Hi,

Need some honest opinions about my current situation. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now. Before her, it was over two years since I've been in a relationship by my own choice. I could've gotten into a lot of relationships but choose not to...waiting for the right one. So any way, I met this girl, who at 26 is 7 years younger than me, and fall in love. I really like this girl and she seems to like me....she has told me that she thinks I am "the one."

So anyway, things are going along for the most part, ok. Some red flags that I've had is the fact that she admitted to me that she's lied about her college education and job when we first met. She said she didn't want me to think less of her. That kinda bothered me because, one, I wouldn't have cared if she told me that when we first met and it doesn't change how I feel about her now. She is in college and will get her degree next year. And two, I do have my degree and have a great job that pays very well but honesty is very important to me and it didn't make sense why she would lie... but I love her and decided to keep our relationship going. Another red flag for me is the fact that at times, she is a little distant. I'm a very affectionate type person and love the kissing, holding hands, touching, etc. A lot of the times we are together, I feel more like her friend than her girlfriend because she isn't affectionate toward me. I'm usually the one that has to initiate any affection...there are times when we hang out together and she'll make no attempt to kiss me or anything. I've talked to her about it in the beginning and told her that affection was something that was important to me...she changes a little but then goes back to being distant. Sometimes this makes me question whether or not she even wants to be with me.

So, this all came to a head recently. We went away for the weekend to visit some of her old friends. The day before we left, she was being distant again. When I asked her if anything was wrong, she kept saying no. So we get there, spend two nights there...same thing, she is distant. So we go to this party and both of us are drinking. A girl that we just meet takes a liking to my girl. So toward the end of the night, we are on the dance floor and I'm watching my girl dance with this other girl. They decide to go to the bathroom and this girl holds my girls hand while they walk to the bathroom. She goes in while my girl stands outside the door. After that they go and get another drink, and this girl takes my girls hand and they walk out on the dance floor and start dancing. I flip out and to make a long story short, we get into a huge fight. I aske her if she wants to be single again...She says that she didn't think she did anything wrong and I don't trust her. I tell her that its not that she necessarily did anything wrong, its just how the situation made me feel. I admit that I can get jealous but didn't understand why she blew me off and went off with this girl, and how she was acting the last few days, etc. She also said that she thought I was a stronger person when we first met because I was crying while we were arguing. I think she is thinking about breaking up with me. I almost feel that is what she wants in the long run anyway but why then would she tell me that I'm the one? I almost think that maybe she really can't give me what I'm looking for in a relationship...even thought I don't think I ask for much.

So, did I blow this thing outta proportion? Do you think the issue is with me and trust? Do you think I was right in how I reacted to the situation? Am I wrong to think she can't give me what I want? I will admit that I don't want to break up with her at all but I sometimes think its gonna happen anyway. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated....and sorry this was so long.